I accidentally saw the chat history between my girlfriend and her best friend. She said that she rarely reached orgasm when having sex with me, and most of the time she was acting… pretending to have an orgasm… Why?
Many women’s performances during sex are worthy of an Oscar. In order to make their boyfriends/husbands believe that they have reached orgasm, they perform very well in terms of facial expressions and voice.
However, it is not entirely the man’s fault that a woman does not have an orgasm, because their own psychological factors may also cause her to be unable to reach orgasm.
High Psychological Pressure
Some women, influenced by societal opinions or personal experiences, may have a limited understanding of sexuality. They may view sex as shameful and believe it’s inappropriate to express enjoyment during intimate moments. Some even worry that showing pleasure might lead their partners to wrongly perceive them as promiscuous.
Moreover, women are more likely to have body anxiety. They are always worried that their body is not good enough and their boyfriends will not be satisfied. This is also the reason why many girls can only accept sex with the lights off.
Some women also experience anxiety around sex. They may feel uninformed about it, worry about the risk of unintended pregnancy, and fear the possibility of hidden cameras in hotels.
It is naturally very difficult to reach orgasm when having sex in such a nervous and anxious mood.
No Contraceptive Measures
If reliable contraceptive measures are not taken during sex, women will be very worried about accidental pregnancy. For example, men do not wear condoms throughout the sex, but use safe period or ejaculation outside the body.
Especially when using the method of external ejaculation, girls will always be anxious about whether the men should withdraw and when to withdraw, and they will have no time to care about their own sexual pleasure, let alone orgasm.
Time Difference is Not Well Grasped
Due to differences in physiological structure, there is a certain time difference between male and female orgasms. Men’s sexual desire comes quickly and violently, while women’s sexual desire is much slower and requires more sexual stimulation to be fully aroused.
If a man only cares about his own sexual pleasure and does not take into account her pace and feelings, he will reach orgasm quickly but she will not.
Sex Positions Need to Be Improved
When many men have sex, they do the same actions and positions every day, just like an assembly line. For example, the most commonly used missionary position is actually difficult for girls to orgasm, because it is not easy to stimulate girls’ sensitive points, such as the G-spot, clitoris, etc. [Extended reading: In addition to the G-spot, how much do you know about these sensitive points on girls? ]
Man should try some sex positions that can stimulate the sensitive points of her private parts during sex, such as Prone Bone Position, Bulldog Sex Position or the 69 oral sex.
How to Make Her Orgasm?
Therefore, if you want to improve the quality of your sex life and have a wonderful sexual experience, it is recommended that you communicate and exchange more with your partner about sexual concepts, and both of you learn more about sexual knowledge, so that your sex life can be smooth sailing.
In addition, women need to feel safe, comfortable, loved, and valued in order to relax during sex. So when having sex, you should try to create a sufficiently private and comfortable environment to give them a sense of security.
Another important point is that her mood will directly affect her sexual state. So during sex, you should always pay attention to her mood, soothe her and comfort her with a gentle tone, help her relax and enjoy the process and happiness of making love.
Of course, sex skills are also crucial. Before sex, you should do a good job of foreplay to fully awaken her sexual desire and make her excited. During sex, you should use positions that are easy to stimulate her sensitive parts, observe her reaction, and adjust your penetration speed according to her feelings.
However, men don’t have to worry about their girlfriends being unable to vent their sexual desires. They can have many ways to reach orgasm, but these are all girls’ own secrets.
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