I would like to ask, do clitoral orgasms and vaginal orgasms have the same feeling? Although I know that one has a penis inside and the other does not, the psychological feeling is definitely different. But in terms of the orgasmic experience, are these two orgasms the same? I have never experienced a vaginal orgasm, which should be due to my physiological reasons. Because my boyfriend and I have a harmonious sex life, he has a big penis and can last a long time during sex. We both have strong sexual desires. But no matter what sex position I use, no matter how long the sex lasts, I can’t reach orgasm during sex. Every time I ask my boyfriend to stop penetration halfway, and then he rubs my clitoris with his hands to help me reach orgasm. Although this way is also very enjoyable, I have never experienced a vaginal orgasm, and I really want to know what it feels like.
First of all, I think there is no difference between these two types of orgasms. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable.
I can achieve multiple levels of clitoral orgasms very skillfully by myself. There are not only small orgasms that last for 3 to 5 seconds, but also large orgasms that gradually accumulate. When it comes the most enjoyable moment, there is a feeling of electricity throughout my body. This feeling spreads from the clitoris to every cell, including the toes, where you can clearly feel the numbness. There is a state of loss of control for about ten seconds. I think this is the most enjoyable clitoral orgasm, which I basically get by squeezing my legs together.
My boyfriend has hardly ever given me an orgasm by massaging my clitoris. I always feel that his skills are not as effective as mine.
As for vaginal orgasms, I don’t know if what I experienced counts. I would suddenly feel very good at a certain angle after the penis was inserted, and then I would ask my boyfriend to slow down the penetration speed, then I tighten my vaginal muscles myself. After tightening a few times, I would feel a strong orgasm. From the inside of the vagina to the thighs, there would be strong and rhythmic contraction and tightening. It would last for about three to five seconds. I usually used the woman-on-top and man-on-top positions. I never had this kind of orgasm through the side entry and rear entry positions.
And I feel that vaginal orgasm is not achieved through penis penetration, but is caused by my own contraction and tightening of the vagina.
Generally speaking, vaginal orgasm is not as pleasurable as the full-body orgasm achieved by clamping the legs together.
I also tried a sex toy and achieved squirting… I looked up some information and it said that squirting is actually a G-spot orgasm, achieved by stimulating the G-spot.
But the strange thing is that my sex toy doesn’t need to be put into vagina, it just stimulates the clitoris. However, I often use it to achieve squirting, and I have to put a towel on the bed every time to avoid getting the sheets wet.
The feeling of squirting is amazing. But I can’t achieve it every time. I can only squirt when I am in good physical condition.
When squirting comes, it feels a bit like urinary incontinence. Liquid keeps gushing out of the vagina, my mind is blank at the time, and thoughts are only focused on the liquid that keeps gushing out.
Squirting can last for a long time, about a minute at a time, and I often feel a little tired after it ends.
I feel that squirting is not so much like an orgasm, but more like the feeling of sweating during exercise. It is not more pleasurable than clitoral or vaginal orgasms. It’s just that people have made it a myth.
When we talk about the feelings of vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm, we have to start with Freud, the founder of sexology.
He believes that clitoral orgasms belong to children or adolescent women, and it is immature. Moreover, the orgasms that women get through masturbation are not as strong as those obtained through sexual intercourse, both psychologically and physiologically. The vaginal orgasm obtained through the friction between the vagina and the sexual organs is the strongest and most fulfilling. This is the performance of a mature woman and the “feminine” orgasm.
His views were accepted for a long time when they were first proposed. However, with the development of sexology, they were mercilessly criticized and were considered disrespectful to women.
Later, American sexologist Kinsey proposed that women’s sexual response has only one source, which is the clitoris.
He believed that the vagina had no nerve endings and was just a lifeless space whose only function was to receive the penis and sperm.
His view was supported by feminism. They no longer needed male genitals to orgasm. Later, this view was also supported by the “Heidi Sex Report”:
Only 26% of American wives reach orgasm during sex. Most of these orgasms have nothing to do with the man’s penetration, but are achieved by the wife’s hard work in rubbing the clitoris. The clitoris is the real switch for orgasm.
Later, Masters and Johnson’s experimental research found that:
Women orgasm primarily through stimulation of the clitoris. Penis penetration of the vagina is not required for an orgasm to occur. The clitoris plays a key role.
Research on the clitoris continues today:
The clitoris has about 8,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive tissue in the female body, while the male penis, which develops from the same cells, has only 4,000 nerve endings.
It can be said that the clitoris is extremely sensitive and its only physiological function is to provide sexual pleasure.
Since the clitoris and penis have the same origin, they are very similar in terms of anatomical structure – the clitoris also has a glans, clitoral hood, and clitoral crus.
When a woman is sexually aroused, the clitoris swells (erects). It also looks different from the penis – the clitoris itself is not just a small bean (located at the intersection of the labia minora). It surrounds the vagina with the clitoral crus. You can think of it this way: a person’s head is the head of the clitoris, the torso is the torso of the clitoris, and the two legs are the clitoral crus. The clitoris has no arms, and its two legs are wrapped around the vagina.
Studies have shown that the “height” of the clitoris (the distance between the glans clitoris and the vagina) can affect a woman’s ability to reach orgasm.
A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that 10 out of 30 women reported that they had difficulty reaching orgasm. The distance between the clitoral head and the vaginal opening of these 10 women was relatively far. At the same time, data also showed that the distance between the clitoral crus and the vaginal opening of women who easily reached orgasm during sexual intercourse was relatively close.
Later, mixed orgasms, uterine orgasms, G-spot orgasms, breast orgasms, tooth-brushing orgasms, etc. were proposed (some women can get orgasms by brushing their teeth). However, for ordinary people like us, having a good sex life and getting orgasms is the most important thing.
In fact, people often overlook a detail: orgasm is produced in the brain, while the clitoris, vagina, G-spot, and uterus are only organs with sexual perception. The brain is the core and largest sexual organ. When a woman reaches orgasm, the sexual excitement response will fall like a waterfall to 80 different parts of the brain.
We don’t need to figure out what kind of feeling each orgasm corresponds to. What we need to do is to put aside the theories in the textbooks and feel with a relaxed mind, your hands, his hands, his penis, his lips, your legs, his touch, wrapping, filling, collision, wetness, temperature, speed, etc. The orgasm will bloom like fireworks in an instant. It doesn’t matter which kind of fireworks you set off, the most important thing is to feel good.
For women who are exploring their own path to orgasm, I share three mindsets with you:
- Orgasm is not the ultimate goal, don’t force it. For sex, relax your body and enjoy it, you may feel it at some inadvertent moment.
- Unlock all sex positions. They are ways to feel and experience different sexual pleasures. According to incomplete statistics, there are 72 basic sex positions, each of which may contain 3-4 variations. If these positions also include changes in strength and angle, it may take at least three years to unlock them all.
- Sex is a physical and mental exercise. The effects of some exercises on sex have been confirmed by scientists. For example, the famous Kegel exercise: through conscious anal lifting exercise to contract the pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle, also known as sex muscle) to improve its strength and elasticity. It has a significant effect on the acquisition and control of orgasm. In addition, whole-body exercises such as swimming and yoga are also good for sexual feelings. And some sex toys are like equipment in the gym, which also have a positive effect on sexual training.
