For girls, “fingering” is not only foreplay, but also an effective way to reach orgasm.
However, like other sexual activities, if the method is not appropriate, “fingering” can also cause pain and discomfort to your sexual partner.
Fortunately, fingering techniques are not difficult. As long as you understand the structure of a girl’s vagina, wear a finger condom, and use enough lubricant and sex toys, you can also use your fingers to give her an unforgetable orgasm.
What is Fingering?
Fingering is the process of stimulating a girl’s clitoris and vagina by using your fingers flexibly, thereby giving her an orgasm.
You can also use your fingers to stimulate the inside of a man’s anus, giving him a “prostate orgasm.”
As sexologist Tucker Malloy says:
Fingers are the best sex tool.
Fingers are densely packed with nerve endings, perfect for sensing the location of objects and touching them in specific ways, making them more flexible and controllable than penises and sex toys, making them easier for women to orgasm.
Does Fingering Mean Finger Sexuality?
“Fingering” emphasizes caressing your sexual partner with fingers and bringing her sexual pleasure. The purpose is to enhance the intimacy and emotions of both parties.
“Finger sexuality” emphasizes a more specific sexual behavior, that is, penetrating stimulation of the vagina or anus with fingers. The purpose is to make the sexual partner reach orgasm or more intense sexual pleasure.
However, whether it is “fingering” or “finger sexuality”, it can help women reach orgasm.
Fingering Skills Guide
Step 1: Clean Your Fingers
Before caressing her with your fingers, trim your nails to avoid scratching your partner. Also, clean your fingers with a cleaning solution to reduce the amount of external bacteria that enters your private parts.
The safest way is to wear condoms, which not only minimizes the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, but also prevents nail scratches and ensures lubrication.
Step 2: Understand Her Sensitive Areas
(1) C-point Orgasm
There are tens of thousands of nerve fibers around the clitoris, about twice as many as the penis. Most people are familiar with the small tubercle on the top of the vulva, but in fact, most of the clitoris and the female corpus cavernosum are located under the skin.
Therefore, in addition to teasing the clitoris with your fingertips, you can also pinch the clitoris with two fingers. Repeatedly stimulating the entire clitoral area will make it easier for her to reach clitoral orgasm.
(2) G-spot Orgasm
According to the Journal of Sexual Medicine Review, the G-spot is a center of sensitivity where five different structures meet: the crus of the clitoris, the clitoral bulb, the periurethral glands, the urethra, and the anterior vaginal wall.
The G-spot is located about 5 cm from the front wall of the vagina. When she is aroused, you can find her G-spot by inserting one or two fingers and curling them toward the front of your partner’s body. You will feel a lump or spongy texture.
Step 3: Respect Sex Partner’s Needs
Whether you are a long-term and stable sexual partner or it is your first time having sex. Her sexual desire intensity will be different at different times, so it is important to maintain communication before sex. You can use verbal flirting in advance to test the other person’s sexual needs. During the process of making love, you should also constantly confirm her state through the girl’s body movements and expressions.
You should learn to be considerate and understanding of her instead of just venting your sexual desire. This will make your sex or fingering process more harmonious and sweet.
Step 4: Caress and Foreplay Are Essential
Men can kiss and caress her body before fingering. In fact, women’s orgasm is mainly achieved through clitoral stimulation, so foreplay must be done well.
Soft kisses and gentle caresses can quickly arouse her sexual desire and make the lovemaking atmosphere more intimate.
For example, you can test the edge of her panties. This provocative action can arouse her anticipation and make her completely immersed in the upcoming sex.
Step 5: Attacking Her Clitoris
When your fingers rub the woman’s labia until her body begins to tremble, it means she is close to orgasm. At this time, you can slightly increase the force and speed to bring her to orgasm.
Step 6: Use Other Sex Toys
After enjoying the pleasure of fingering, you can use the stimulation of sex toys to make the experience of vaginal orgasm even richer.
You can try using a vibrator and a butt plug during fingering, which will stimulate multiple sensitive areas of her body at the same time.
For example, you can use a vibrator to gently stimulate her clitoris while you finger her. This dual stimulation can push her vaginal orgasm to new heights. Or you can use a butt plug to increase her sense of control over her body while allowing her to enjoy the sexual stimulation of two holes at the same time.
How to Reach Orgasm Through Fingering?
Although we have already written that the G-spot and C-spot are sensitive centers of women, if you directly stimulate these super-sensitive areas of her at the beginning, it seems that you will not achieve the ideal fingering effect, but will appear to be reckless and clumsy.
You can start by slowly drawing circles on the inside of a woman’s thighs with your fingers, then gently touch her vulva with your fingertips, and slowly slide your fingers up and down her vulva.
When the flirting is done and you are ready to insert your finger into the vagina, be gentle. You can start with one finger from the shallow part. It is best to say “I am going in” in her ear in a lustful but gentle tone before inserting. The tingling pleasure will not only not be embarrassing, but will make women look forward to your actions more and trust you more.
When your finger enters the woman’s vagina 5 to 8 cm, you will feel a swollen and soft area, which is her G-spot. The most comfortable gesture for her is to gently bend her index or middle finger upward and apply pressure to massage the G-spot, which will give her a chance to reach orgasm through fingering.
Women’s Orgasm Needs to Be Accumulated Slowly
If your caress arouses a girl’s sexual desire, she will shake her hips, moan, etc. At this time, continuous G-spot stimulation may cause her to squirt.
If she craves stronger sexual stimulation, you can try to insert your finger completely deep. Deeper insertion may stimulate her anterior fornix or A-spot (a sensitive area about 10 to 15 cm in front of the vaginal wall). But not every girl likes this feeling, so you need to communicate well before deep stimulation.
Fingering Orgasm Techniques
When you use your fingers to stimulate the vagina, don’t forget to kiss her, stimulate her nipples, stimulate her clitoris, etc., to make the lovemaking process more interesting and exciting. After a girl reaches vaginal orgasm through fingering, her body’s desires will be fully awakened, and she will become wilder and more seductive in the next stage of sex.
Finger Condoms Make Finger Sex More Intimate and Safer
Finger condoms are designed specifically for fingering or fingering climax and are a practical protective tool that enhances the intimacy and safety of sexual intercourse.
It is usually made of high-quality materials, has excellent elasticity and durability, and can fit the fingers closely, which not only improves the comfort during use, but also provides additional protection and reduces the risk of bacterial transmission and infection.
Material of the condom:
- Natural latex: Highly elastic and flexible, it can adapt to various finger sizes and provide a comfortable fit. The latex material itself has good elasticity, which ensures that it is not easy to break during use.
- Hypoallergenic: After hypoallergenic treatment, it is suitable for sensitive skin, reducing the risk of skin allergic reactions and giving users greater peace of mind.
- Ultra-thin design: Provides a more natural touch, maintaining finger sensitivity while providing full protection whether in massage or contact or other applications.
- Lubricating coating: Each finger sleeve is coated with lubricant, which makes it smoother during use, reduces friction and improves the overall experience.
Oral Sex While Fingering
Adding oral sex to fingering can make the whole sexual experience more intimate. It can also greatly increase the chances of a woman’s orgasm. When your fingers explore the girl’s body, your tongue can gently lick her clitoris or other sensitive areas. This double stimulation will double her sexual pleasure.
This way of playing can not only make her feel physically happy, but also quickly heat up the passion between you, ensuring that she will look forward to and cooperate with all your next actions!
Fingering Orgasm FAQ
What Are The Fingering Positions?
Fingering isn’t limited to the traditional side-lying position. Let’s take a look at how to take fingering to the next level and unlock more ways and techniques to make women orgasm.
Kneeling or Standing
You can try having the woman kneel with her legs apart, or stand with her feet slightly apart.
These positions bring her vagina closer to your fingers, allowing you to more precisely reach the front wall of her vagina, effectively stimulating her G-spot and speeding up her vaginal orgasm.
Supine Hip Lift
The girl lies on her back, raises her hips, and places a pillow under her hips. This position makes it easier for the fingers to reach the G-spot, which can more effectively stimulate the sensitive area and bring intense sexual pleasure to the orgasm of fingering.
Preparation Before and After Fingering
Water-based Lubricant
Even if a woman’s own vaginal fluids are moist enough, she may still consider using some lubricant during fingering, which can not only add an extra sense of smoothness but also make the sexual experience more pleasurable.
The natural vaginal lubrication of women cannot last for a long time; therefore, some women may feel uncomfortable during finger caressing, and it is particularly important to choose a suitable water-based lubricant.
Clean Private Parts After Sex
Don’t fall asleep immediately after you have an orgasm with fingering. This is because bacteria can easily breed during sex. To keep your private parts healthy, you should clean them after fingering.
Gently wash the vulva with warm water and a special cleanser, and avoid using overly irritating products that disrupt the natural balance of the vulva. After cleaning, you can use maintenance products designed specifically for women, such as moisturizing gel or soothing spray, which can help repair the skin and reduce discomfort.
