If you have never had anal sex before, do you want to try with him (her) to add more experience to your sex life?
According to the statistics, about 36% of couples have tried anal sex. And the first time you have anal sex, you will be excited and nervous. The feeling is no less than the first time you have sex with her (him).
However, in order to make anal sex more enjoyable and to minimize possible accidents, we need to have certain skills to make the anal sex experience better and more enjoyable.
Create Perfect Atmosphere
First, create an atmosphere that both parties like. Make her feel relaxed and connected.
You can dim the lights and play some soft music. Make sure the room is private and cozy to create a comfortable environment for her.
Not only will this make her feel physically comfortable, but it will also make her feel more secure and willing to be close to you.
Getting Ready For Anal Sex
Now let’s get to the point: how to prepare for anal sex.
Anal sex is a little different from vaginal sex because the anus isn’t meant to be penetrated by a penis, so you have to take some special steps to give your partner a good anal sex experience.
- You can take a shower together. At this time, she can not only use her fingers to clean the anus and the rectum that can be touched at the entrance, but also as part of the foreplay to set the mood for the upcoming anal sex.
- Don’t skimp on lube! You should choose a good quality lube that not only lubricates well but also doesn’t cause any side effects on her anus. If you’re not having anal sex in water, a water-based lube is a good choice. Be sure to avoid oil-based lubes, as they can damage condoms and pose a safety risk.
- If you’re in missionary position, you can place a towel over the sheets (to avoid staining them) and use pillows to elevate her hips. This will make penetration smoother and more comfortable.
You can prepare enough wet wipes in advance so that you can use them at any time.
Precautions To Avoid Injury
During the penetration, man should always pay close attention to her feelings. If she feels uncomfortable, he should stop immediately to prevent anal fissures or other injuries to her.
During anal sex, you should continue to apply lubricant around the anus and penis, and choose the correct sexual intercourse position. This will not only reduce her pain, prevent her anus and rectum from being injured, but also make your penetrations smoother.
Safety
Condoms are essential for anal sex. They can effectively reduce the spread of STDs and isolate direct contact with feces. If a condom is damaged or stained with feces during anal sex, it should be replaced immediately.
To reduce the risk of condom breakage, don’t be reluctant to use lubricant, the more the better.
Mastering Foreplay & Build-Up Techniques
If you want to make anal sex more enjoyable, don’t rush it. Take it step by step and make sure she’s fully into it before you proceed.
1. Awaken Her Sexual Desire First
- Foreplay is key for anal sex
- Start with kisses and gentle caresses
- Explore all her sensitive spots and make her look forward to anal sex
- Whisper some dirty talk in her ear
2. Massage Her Buttocks
- Apply warm massage oil to her buttocks
- Use your fingers to move in slow circular motions on her buttocks to loosen up her muscles
- Focus on massaging her lower back and buttocks
- Gradually increase the intensity of the massage around the buttocks
- Use your fingertips to gently stroke her anus to arouse her
- Use both hands alternately to apply force and gently press, and observe her reaction (sound, breathing, muscles, whether the vagina secretes love fluid)
3. Stimulate Her Anus
- At first, you can use your fingertips to gently circle her anus
- Apply gentle pressure with your fingertips
- As she feels more comfortable, gradually increase your pressure
- Alternate between gentle and firm touches and watch her reactions
- Use enough lube to make anal sex easier
- Gently spread her buttocks to expose more area
- If her anus is used to your touch and pressure, you can slowly insert a finger
- Use your fingers to move slowly in and out, and watch her reactions to make sure she is comfortable
- Ask her to breathe deeply to help her relax and increase her sensations
4. Licking Her Anus
- Kiss around her anus to help her relax
- Use your tongue to explore the outer edge of her anus to increase her comfort and excitement
- Try circling the anus with your tongue, gradually moving closer to its center
- Use the tip of your tongue to tease her anus
- Use the surface of your tongue for wider, softer licks
- Adjust your technique based on her body language and reactions
Choosing Anal Sex Positions For Beginners
Whether your position is correct or not directly determines whether your anal sex experience is good or not. Here are some positions suitable for beginners:
Position 1: Missionary
This is an intimate sex position. The man and woman can make lots of eye contact and kiss. The missionary position can help her relax. She lies on her back with pillows to raise her hips. The man then holds his penis with his hand and gently inserts it into her anus.
Position 2: Doggy Style
This position allows the penis to penetrate deeper, so the man must be gentle. The woman gets on all fours, and the man penetrates from behind. He must always control the depth and speed of the thrusts, and be considerate of her feelings.
Position 3: Prone
When using this anal sex position, the girl will be more relaxed and save energy. She lies flat on the bed and the guy penetrates from above. The movements should be as slow as possible to give her time to adapt.
Keep Communications
Communicate, communicate, and communicate again – data shows that if couples can communicate openly about their feelings during sex, their sexual satisfaction will increase by 33%.
And man should correct his sexual behavior according to her verbal feedback. After all, communication is not only to comfort her, but also to further improve your sexual skills.
If you can say some dirty talk in her ear at this time, your sexual experience may be better.
How to Improve Your Comfort and Pleasure of Anal Sex?
According to statistics, 60% of couples said that correct anal sex advice played a big role in improving their sexual experience.
Tip 1 – master relaxation techniques
When it comes to anal sex, the first priority is to be relaxed. Only when she is relaxed, can you have a smooth and enjoyable anal sex.
You can caress her a lot before anal sex, or give her a soothing massage. She can try deep breathing during anal sex. These actions can relax the muscles in the anus and make anal sex more pleasurable.
Tip 2 – Shave the Hair Around Anus
Shaving the hair around her anus can make anal sex more comfortable, more sensitive, and enhance the sexual experience.
At the same time, it’s also a very intimate act that will make the subsequent sex even more sexy.
And, as you shave her, she will give in and trust you completely, creating a deeper connection. This will further increase your intimacy and excitement.
Tip 3 – Smooth Transition To Anal Sex
If you’re switching from vaginal sex to anal sex, here are some things to consider for a smoother experience:
- Keep her arousal high: While you’re fucking her vaginally, do some anal foreplay to help her relax and get ready.
- Start with gentle anal stimulation: Use a lubricated finger to circle her anus, using gentle, slow strokes to help her relax.
- Slowly insert your finger into her anus: When she feels comfortable, apply a generous amount of lubrication to your finger and gently insert it
- Slow anal penetration: When she is ready, apply lubrication to your penis and slowly insert it into her anus.
- Continuous communication: Keep communicating with her and observe her reactions to ensure your sexual partner’s comfort
- Important reminder: Never switch from anal to vaginal sex without cleaning the penis and anus to avoid infection.
Tip 4 – Start with an Anal Training Kit
Anal training kits are a must-have tool to prepare you for anal sex. These kits come with butt plugs of different sizes, so you can start with a small-sized butt plug and then gradually increase the size.
Choose the smallest size butt plug first, lubricate it and gently insert it into her anus. Leave it in for a few minutes to allow her muscles to adjust and relax, then remove it. As she becomes more comfortable, you can increase the size of the butt plug.
This method allows her anus to adapt to the penetration of the penis without discomfort, making the sexual experience more pleasurable.
Tip 5 – Add extra stimulation for maximum sexual pleasure
To increase the pleasure, you can use a vibrator together with a butt plug. This can enhance the anal sex experience by providing double stimulation.
Other sex toys to consider include a orgasm pen, which provides intense, targeted stimulation to enhance the overall experience. You can also use a dual-control, dual-vibration small dildo to create a combination that can enhance internal and external pleasure during anal sex.
Tip 6 – Discover the Secret Way to Make Her Love Anal Sex
Want her to thoroughly enjoy anal sex?
The secret is in the details—using plenty of lubrication, engaging in foreplay, making sure she’s comfortable.
One tool that can help simplify this process is a lubricant syringe, which makes applying lubricant simple and precise.
Tip 7 – Optimize Your Diet For A Better Experience
You should eat:
- Eat fiber-rich foods, such as fruits, vegetables, and whole grains, to promote proper digestion
- Drink plenty of water throughout the day to stay hydrated
- Eat light, easily digestible foods, such as yogurt, bananas, or oatmeal before anal sex
- Take probiotics to maintain bowel health and regular bowel movements
You shouldn’t eat:
- Avoid large meals before anal sex, as they can cause bloating or discomfort
- Avoid gas-producing foods, such as beans, broccoli, and carbonated drinks, to prevent bloating and gas buildup
- If dairy products easily upset your stomach, avoid them
- Avoid spicy or greasy foods as they can cause indigestion
Following these dietary tips will help enhance your anal sex experience.
FAQ During Anal Sex
1. Is an enema necessary before anal sex?
No, an enema is not necessary before anal sex.
2. Is anal sex painful for a woman’s first time?
The first time may be challenging, but as long as you do enough foreplay, apply plenty of lubrication, and pay attention to relaxing her sphincter muscles, it won’t be painful. Take your time when inserting your penis, relax, and try different positions, such as doggy style.
3. What are the risks of anal sex?
The anal lining is very fragile, so the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) is slightly higher. But don’t worry – you can protect yourself and your partner by practicing safe sex, such as using condoms.
4. How long should I date her before we try anal sex?
There is no one-size-fits-all answer, as long as you both feel ready. Communication is key to achieving sexual pleasure for both of you and ensuring you are both on the same page about trying new sexual experiences.
5. Can she really have an anal orgasm?
Yes, many women find anal sex to be intensely pleasurable. Some women can orgasm from anal sex because there are a lot of nerve endings in the anus, which means it can be as effective as oral or vaginal sex.
6. Can we have anal sex while she is pregnant?
Is anal sex safe during pregnancy? Yes, but avoid it if she’s uncomfortable, has hemorrhoids, or is at risk for premature birth.
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