Why Do I Want To Have Sex With Her When Arguing?

Sometimes when I have an argument with my wife, why do I suddenly want to have sex with her in half way?

I don’t know if you have ever had a similar experience. When you were arguing fiercely with your wife, suddenly your anger turned into lust, and you wanted to have passionate sex with her.

This situation actually has scientific basis. I don’t know if you have heard of the term “angry sex”, also known as “makeup sex“.

When couples quarrel, they will produce very complex and extremely intense emotional, such as anger, sadness, fear, etc. These emotions can easily turn into sexual excitement. When quarreling, the body will release a large amount of hormones, which happen to be the hormones needed to arouse sexual desire.

Moreover, quarrels will inevitably hurt feelings, and the relationship will become full of uncertainty, and the fear of losing each other will inevitably arise in the heart. At this time, sex, as the most intimate way of internal contact, can not only release sexual desire, but also be used to save each other’s feelings.

That’s why some couples end up in bed after a quarrel. So, can sex really make two people reconcile?

Although to some extent, angry sex can be seen as a band-aid for emotions, but sex cannot fundamentally solve the conflict. If the problem cannot be solved from the root, the conflict will still erupt in the future.

Moreover, angry sex can easily turn into sexual violence. If she/he still has anger and resentment in her/his heart, and uses sex to exert the emotions that were not vented during the quarrel on another person, she/he will become aggressive during sex, and once out of control, it will turn into sexual violence.

In addition, angry sex can also become a means of PUA. No matter what conflicts arise, they think that as long as they take the initiative to have sex to please him/her, it will be enough. In the long run, it is easy to be manipulated by his/her partner.

I hope everyone understands that sex is not the ultimate means to resolve conflicts between couples. Only by facing and properly solving the problems can the relationship develop harmoniously and stably.